Monday, February 20, 2012

How to recognize control dramas

One way to recognize control dramas is to notice how you feel when being with a particular person. If you don't fell energized, uplifted and/or joyful, the chances are your energy might be draining from you. Concentrate on how you feel when dealing with a particular person, do you feel sudden pangs of guilt? Do you feel like you are bad person, friend, child etc.? If any opf the above seems familiar, you are dealing with "Poor me" drama. "Poor me" person is always looking for a handout in one form or the other. They usually have low self-confidence and are looking to get energy from others by blaming or using sad stories. If a person makes you feel guilty, stop and directly ask if that's what they are trying to do. This way you are putting a block on the energy drainage, by bringing their unconscious drama to consciousness. If you are feeling critisized, humiliated and/or put down by a certain person, it's a clear sign they are using Interrogator technique. Interrogators are used to getting energy by convincing someone they are worthless, doing something wrong, leading the wrong type of life etc. They ask you many questions, probing, hoping to find something wrong, or something that can seem wrong to you, so you would start feeling bad about yourself. For Interrogator it is more important to convince you that there is something wrong then actually finding something wrong. When you start feeling like there is something in your life that could be critisized, stop, remind yourself what is really going on and ask the Interrogator something like "So, you are trying to tell me you think something is wrong with that?" Let them know you have noticed their maneur, bring it to consciouness. If what you feel next to a specific person is fear or threat, then you are dealing with Intimidator. the more fear you will feel and show, the more energy the Intimidator will recive. You need to make sure you are not getting aggressive in return or not getting into "Poor me" routine because that will only make situation worse. Instead, ask the Intimidator why he/she is so hostile. Make them conscious of the fact that they are being hostile, then remove yourself from the situation altogether, if you feel any physical threat at all. The last but not least is Aloof control drama which is harder to recognize since the person will show no interest in you or your life in any way, shape, or form. Aloof people thrive on insecurities of others just like Interrogators do but instead of prying, they are getting your energy by making you go after them. Sort of like Hyde from "That seventy's show", when he attracts girls by showing no interest in them "You gotta be zeen, aloof" he tells FEZ. In some cases you might feel like they expected something from you and did not receive it, or you may feel as though something is wrong with you and that's why they are ignoring you. A lot of people with insecurities start feeling awful when someone does not say "hello" to them and will go to great length to find out what is going on. The one thing to watch out for is that a person might just have an aloof personality and not be using any control drama at all. The good thing to do when dealing with Aloof drama is to shift your attention elsewhere. The chances are if they are suing control drama, they will come after you themselves, trying to draw you back into contact so that they could keep on getting the energy. Below is something I found interesting on on internet forum - vices linked to control dramas: Intimidation = Eating of meat, using animal products Interrogation = Gambling Poor Me = Intoxicants Aloof = Illicit Sex - (Sex not for procreation) I found that fascinating since my mom, a typical interrogator has a gambling problem and all intimidators in the family, including myself, are active carnivores:)

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